The modern workplace bully is probably more dangerous now than ever. Used to be the tough guy who commands the most would win. Now it’s the the quiet ones you need to watch that slip under the radar.
Speaking from experience, there are 4 types of personalities…
- There’s the extrovert really out there, says what they feel each time every time. A person who doesn’t listen to what anyone else has to say and is usually pretty aggressive.
- There’s the extrovert with a bit of introvert… Who listens and will flex a bit. Who is still outspoken but can bounce depending on what they face.
- There’s the introvert with extroverted skills. They are generally quiet, but when push comes to shove. They will speak out against whomever.
- The introvert is the one to watch for. Is generally quiet. Eyes and ears are everywhere… and will do everything in their power to bring someone down using every avenue but direct contact with whomever they are having a problem with.
On this level, I am the introverted type myself. However, my experiences and level of professional skills where I am currently working don’t need to bring me to take anyone down. If I am dissatisfied with someone, I bitch about it, and adjust myself according to their level of skills. If I have to step up further, I will and I make sure I get recognized instead of people feeling whomever dropped the ball fixed something up.
My friend is still pondering their decision to stay and fight out the situation, or just give up the hope of change and walk. If he walks, the group of people who don’t consider his job expectations and tools required to do the job will have forced him out… only to get back another person who is very much like my friend because the job requires them to have time management and scheduling deadlines.
Does he want to stay and fight the fight? Will the fight be worth it? Reality is… he’s dealing with people who are not outspoken who muddle together quietly. In a business where everything has to be scheduled, the majority of the people will not, and refuse to schedule. Most are all last minute planners… My friend is not in that group. If I were to describe my friend right now, the workplace employees has formed a circle and he’s outside of it. Because the majority are doing the same thing… flying by the seat of their pants. For them and their part of the job, it works… however, they have little consideration for fellow colleagues such as my friend who doesn’t have the same privilege. It’s probably the reason why many of my friend’s type of field are run out of churches.
In my job, I must plan ahead and stick to a schedule. CHRIST… I am in Logistics of time management… I make my job look easy because I am confined within time restrictions. Come see my computer at work and watch the many notifications go off during my shift to ensure I have everything done on time, each time, EVERY TIME.
EVERYONE I work with is on the same time restrictions… including my own drivers… IF YOU DONT PLAN AHEAD,,, GUESS WHAT… you won’t fit in and will be job hunting in no time.
So does my friend fight what appears to be cold and non appreciative employees who don’t realize their own performance effects another so profoundly… after all, we all know what happens to work places like this… they fail.